I forgive you but because of your past actions I do NOT trust you. Trust is earned NOT given.
Judging is when I think I know why someone did something without communicating with them personally.
After 48 years and some codependent enabling relationships for most of those years I had to learn BOUNDARIES, REAL forgiveness, PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY, REAL love....there are some that even though I do everything I can to work things out they refuse the way of peace, REAL love, and choose to continue in their mess, dysfunction, mean, nasty, hateful ,ugly,....strife, gossip,....dishonor, disrespect,.... For those types I try to communicate with them and set boundaries however if they continue to dishonor themselves/me/others..... then I REAL love love 'em, forgive 'em, bless 'em, pray 'em but I do it from a loooooooooong way off. Proverbs tells me to "Guard my heart with ALL diligence for out of it flows my life, health, emotions, wealth, .....other relationships.
The God of Peace designed my body to live in peace and when I don't the consequences could cost me my life, health, wealth,....other relationships. Jesus is the Prince of Peace, God is the God of Peace, the REAL Gospel message is the Gospel of Peace and I am to be sharing the too good to be true REAL news of Peace to the world because of the finished and completed work of Jesus Christ.
Suppressed thoughts with their embedded emotions will explode. Our brains are designed to acknowledge, repent and forgive. ~ Dr. Caroline Leaf
"Repent means to change your mind"
Forgiveness means to send away the offense. It has nothing to do with the other person, them forgiving/ doing/ receiving it or not, ..... it is ALL about me and my heart and my actions. I send it away because it could cost me my life, health/ dis-ease, wealth,..other relationships.
Forgiving you gives me PEACE
Giving yourself peace is your job NOT mine.
Forgiving you does NOT mean I TRUST YOU
Forgiving you does NOT mean I want you in my life!
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ~ R. Muller
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~ Lewis B. Smedes
“When a deep injury is done us, we never recover until we forgive” ~ Alan Paton
I can move past what others have done to me. But I can never move past my unforgiveness ~ Dr Jim Richards